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Not Everything Happens For A Reason




Not everything happens for a reason. Sometimes things just happen. That's it. There is nothing one can do about it. But we go looking for reasons. That is what we have been told for ages - Everything happens for a reason. 

And we have all kinds of reasons. Fate, destiny,  divine plan, higher purpose, God's plan, for something better, or it was meant to happen. You keep getting some or the other inexplicable reasons which rarely makes any sense. Yet we continue to look for answers because we have been always made to believe everything happens for a reason.

Just because something does not work out - it could be a business, marriage, education, divorce, death of a loved one, broken dreams - does not mean there have to be reasons for it. In fact, there are none. These reasons we seek become an escape route. We start using them to rationalize failure and loss. We have grown accustomed to becoming strong believers of cause and effect. So much so that it starts becoming a crutch we would like to hold on to. Does everything in life happen to teach us a lesson? We, unfortunately though, believe and it hurts us a lot. It makes us look helpless about which we can't do much.

Our belief in such things may strip us of our ability to think, make the right choices and make us believe downhill is the only way to go. We may end up believing in a fatality, as the only way out. 

It does not have to be that way. Why should it be? Just stop looking for the answers. Stop looking for the reasons. There is nothing/no one to be blamed for. Whatever happened just happened. Let go of looking for answers, always. Letting go may help us look at things from a different perspective. It may help us understand what to take out of it. More importantly, it may create meaning out of something that happened for no reason at all. 

Finding or creating meaning is not as same as looking for reasons. When we create the meaning, we grow.  We accept what happened rather than finding an escape route. And it changes us. The process, however, is easier said than done. But it is worth trying and accepting that not everything happens for a reason. 





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