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It's Your Decision. It's Your Life.

Many a times we are confronted with making decisions. Not quite knowing what to do or how to go about making the choice. Many a times we are faced with a conflict about who is it that is making the decision. Is it really us or the person who put everything at stake for us to be able to reach a particular level making the decision for us? Are we taking a decision because we are indebted to or are we taking a decision because we want to? Is the unintentional / intentional behaviour of others involved compelling us to make a choice without even realizing? These are underlying questions beneath the surface which rarely anyone gives a thought when making decision. Yet these very questions set the tone for the decision which we are never quite sure if its ours.



It's the same conflict which Michael Oher experiences in "The Blind Side". Realizing the influence of Tuohy's in his choosing Ole Miss, Michael is not quite sure if he made the decision that he wanted too. On the other side Ms. Tuohy realizing the conflict and pain she has put Michael through, asks him to make his own choice assuring to back him in whatever decision he makes, even if the decision is to keep flipping burgers or not to play football at all (which Michael is really good at and is at the heart of the conflict). The word which she has with Michael helps him to cross the rubicon and sets him free. Free from the burden of being indebted to and influenced to make a particular choice. As she eventually tells him "It's your decision, it's your life." 

Makes me wonder how many times we make a decision bogged down baggage we are carrying with us. Is it the decision which we want to make or we feel we should make? Is the decision influenced? Last but not the least will the decision change if someone tells us they are willing to support and back us no matter what because it's our decision, its our life.


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