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Not quite the one



You are not quite the one you used to be. (You have changed a lot.)

It could mean either ways. Expectational or Aspirational.

One way is where you fall short of expectations. You not being able to evolve with my needs or probably not moving along with changing times. The experience or the touch which you once had seems to be missing. Chances are you are not even aware. The ambience or environment in which you operate could be the same to you. But to an eye outside it's old and outdated, out of sync with times. The one reminiscent of the namesake you used to be. The milestones have been moved forward. What you are looking at may be memoirs of a time bygone.

The other is aspirational. The one of you having raised the bar higher. Taking it a notch further where I aspire to be and even willing to be a part of it. Here I see you as adaptable and dynamic. Getting others to be one like you. Keeping up with the times. Moving the milestones along with times. They are not just memoirs of times bygone rather a roadmap of things to come. Things you never knew one could aspire to be.

The one with expectations demands that you to create value. The one with aspirations sees you create value propositions. 

Which one are you when someone says you are not quite the one you used to be.
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