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Thirty Days In October And The Day After - Day 2

Common Ground.

At our MBA batch reunion today one my classmates asked, "you don't write mails any more?" Well, for starters, I was quite notorious for writing a couple of mails which the class did cherish (I have posted a couple of them in my blogs..will posts the links later).

What I did not mention to him was that I did attempt on quite a few occasions to write but could not reach beyond a few lines. However hard I may have tried...I always got stuck. Never quite realising the reason why I could not go beyond the first few lines.

However on my way back home from the reunion as I was reflecting on his question the answer suddenly struck me - why I could not. Simply because the common ground that we shared when college was not there any more. We had gone different ways. Though the common thread the connected us still remains and will continue to remain but what we knew and experienced as part of college life was our common ground. It was easier then for me comment on it in my own way. Not now. 

It also brought me the realisation why need to have a common ground / common platform / common (known) context when we are communicating. Again simply because it makes the communication easy to relate and more meaningful. The more we share this common ground the more effective and meaningful the communication becomes. The more we loose sight or stop experience this common ground the more difficult the communication becomes. And it holds true in all aspects of life.

Today and for the days and years to follow I pray to the Lord to help me regain this lost ground and never to lose the common ground that still share with others.

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Before I close for the day one of my most proudest moment...is the 100% increase in number of my followers ...surprise surprise ...hahaa...it has gone up from one to two. Until and unless it keeps doubling up this rate may never be achieved again. So thanks Vivek. Thanks Melvin (my friend and my first follower). Thanks God. And also to all those who have visited the blog to date. Thanks. I hope we continue to share and tread  on our common ground.
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