The Next Thirty Days...Day 7 (The Importance of Emotions)

Well I am not a scientist, psychologist or for that matter a person who has read Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. But one thing for sure I have realized over the years. And that is emotions are important. And as days have passed by my belief in the importance of emotions has gotten stronger and stronger.

I don't know how to prove it neither have any research studies available to me with prove that other than a simple reasoning logic. When is that it that something impacts or changes you the most? Don't just rush into the answer but think over it. It's only when something touches your heart or strikes a chord and this is nothing but the emotions. Emotions that shape your thinking and the way you act. Emotions are sometimes rational / logical and totally irrational / illogical at other times. But when they touched drastically different things happen. These drastically different things could be miracles or doom. The deeper picture behind these two extremes are whatever happens in between them is only because of emotions that play a critical role. Love them or hate them but you can't ignore them.

Perhaps that is the reason why we always keep on saying people know things they have to do and they do it quite mechanically or reluctantly. There's no driving force behind it. Consequently there is lack of energy and enthusiasm. But the words "emotional connect" or "emotional buy in" and we all know wonders are bound to happen.

My only hope at this time to be able to illustrate solely by myself the importance of emotions in our day to day thinking and living and use them significantly for creating a better society. And yes its very much a emotional thought...but surely one worth having.

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