Skip to main content

Not Everything Happens For A Reason




Not everything happens for a reason. Sometimes things just happen. That's it. There is nothing one can do about it. But we go looking for reasons. That is what we have been told for ages - Everything happens for a reason. 

And we have all kinds of reasons. Fate, destiny,  divine plan, higher purpose, God's plan, for something better, or it was meant to happen. You keep getting some or the other inexplicable reasons which rarely makes any sense. Yet we continue to look for answers because we have been always made to believe everything happens for a reason.

Just because something does not work out - it could be a business, marriage, education, divorce, death of a loved one, broken dreams - does not mean there have to be reasons for it. In fact, there are none. These reasons we seek become an escape route. We start using them to rationalize failure and loss. We have grown accustomed to becoming strong believers of cause and effect. So much so that it starts becoming a crutch we would like to hold on to. Does everything in life happen to teach us a lesson? We, unfortunately though, believe and it hurts us a lot. It makes us look helpless about which we can't do much.

Our belief in such things may strip us of our ability to think, make the right choices and make us believe downhill is the only way to go. We may end up believing in a fatality, as the only way out. 

It does not have to be that way. Why should it be? Just stop looking for the answers. Stop looking for the reasons. There is nothing/no one to be blamed for. Whatever happened just happened. Let go of looking for answers, always. Letting go may help us look at things from a different perspective. It may help us understand what to take out of it. More importantly, it may create meaning out of something that happened for no reason at all. 

Finding or creating meaning is not as same as looking for reasons. When we create the meaning, we grow.  We accept what happened rather than finding an escape route. And it changes us. The process, however, is easier said than done. But it is worth trying and accepting that not everything happens for a reason. 





Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Day 19 - The Power of Multidisciplinary Approach

In an era of specialization, many of the world's most successful people advocate for a broader, more holistic view—one that embraces a multidisciplinary approach to life. This approach involves combining knowledge and skills from various fields, leading to better problem-solving, creativity, and adaptability. Think of a Renaissance person like Leonardo da Vinci, whose expertise spanned art, science, and engineering, shaping innovation for centuries. Today, the importance of a multidisciplinary mindset has become even more crucial in navigating the complexities of modern life. The Impact of a Multidisciplinary Approach David Epstein’s book, Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World, provides compelling arguments for why those who explore a wide variety of interests often outperform their more specialized peers in the long run. Epstein highlights examples from sports, business, and science, showing that people who dip their toes into different fields are often...
Post a Comment
Read more

Day 9 - The Power of Understanding

The words “I understand” hold immense power. In the TV show Two and a Half Men , Charlie Harper often uses this phrase, sometimes with humorous intent. But beyond the humor, these two simple words—"I understand"—carry a depth and magic that is often overlooked. Understanding is the first step toward empathy. It reflects a willingness to connect with another person's experience, their emotions, and their perspective. Yet, to truly understand, we must pause and reflect on what we mean when we say it.  Do we really understand what the other person is going through?  Are we merely acknowledging their words, or are we trying to feel what they feel? True understanding isn’t about sympathy or offering solutions. It’s about resonance.  Do we truly feel the depth of someone’s anxiety or pain, or are we simply familiar with the emotion?  Does understanding require us to have lived through similar circumstances, or is it possible to grasp the weight of another’s experience even...
Post a Comment
Read more

Emotions in Business - Fear: The Good Side

Fear is often painted as the villain in the business world—the force that holds us back from taking risks, making bold decisions, or stepping into uncharted territory. But what if we’ve misunderstood fear all along? Fear, when harnessed correctly, is not a weakness; it’s a powerful signal. It tells us what matters, sharpens our instincts, and forces us to prepare better. From startups to Fortune 500 companies, understanding fear can be the difference between reckless decisions and calculated risks. Fear and Decision-Making Fear plays a crucial role in business decisions. A CEO contemplating an acquisition fears overpaying or making a wrong strategic move. An entrepreneur fears market rejection. A salesperson fears losing a big deal. But these fears, when analyzed, can guide better decision-making. Instead of dismissing fear, we must ask: What is this fear telling me? Is it highlighting a blind spot? Is it pushing me to prepare better? Successful leaders don’t eliminate f...
Post a Comment
Read more