On Death...what really changes

What changes after death? My mind wondered and I immediately said nothing. Nothing? How come?

Well, you continue to dress the way you used to. You continue to eat like you used to. You move around just the like the way you used to. You enjoy your moments of laughter and fun just like you used to. There are so many other things too that really do not change in way after a death. So? It's a perfectly rational answer. The one that is easily visible to eye and logically acceptable to mind.

But that's just like the ocean that appears to be calm above and is full of life within. What really changes after the death of your near one is that when continue to dress the way you used to, he / she is not going to be there to appreciate it. When you sit down to eat he / she not is going to be there to persuade to have some more. When you move around he / she is not going accompany you any more. The underlying meaning of things which continue the way they used to be drastically changes. There is profound impact and indelible mark which death has left behind which never is going to be the same again.

Little moments of joy won't be multiplied any more nor the sorrows will be divided. Each moment brings with it a void that becomes difficult to fill. You suddenly realise the difference between "is" and "was". Realizing that the void is going stay on forever and is now an integral part of your life, you come to terms with one of the most inevitable truths of life. You have been awakened to see the truth that nothing lasts forever. The realization restores the you to the way you were before the death occurred with the void still very much there.

To a onlooker, you have moved on in life with nothing much changed and to one who has experienced death before, it means that you have accepted the eternal truth of life called death and added meaning to your life.

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